Slow to get pregnant? – when to (and when not to) worry

imagesNothing can stress out a woman quite as much as worrying about pregnancy. Pregnant moms worry that something could be wrong; women wanting to be pregnant worry about why they might not be pregnant on their timetable. The fear that something is wrong and keeping you from conceiving is a concern I hear a lot about in my practice. So, when I saw this recent comment come through, I wanted to share it and my answer in hopes that it helps calm some fears. After all, worry itself can keep you from becoming pregnant!


Dear Julie,

I am 33 years old and I have never been pregnant, is it possible that something is wrong with me?

Thanks, T.


Hi T,

Thank you for contacting me. The general rule about getting pregnant is this:

If you have been actively trying for one year and are not pregnant, then you need to seek an opinion from your doctor.

Don’t worry: normally, there is nothing wrong with most people who are actively trying get pregnant. A visit with a healthcare provider will provide you with all kinds of information about your specific situation.

The doctor will go over a number of things:

  • Your cycle, and whether you have a “normal” 28-30 day cycle.
  • Timing and the days you are sexually active.
  • Whether there’s a male infertility factor to be considered.
  • Whether you’re ovulating (producing a mature egg).

These questions and others like them are the place to begin. Please don’t self- diagnose, and don’t worry: if you’ve been trying for one year and you’re not pregnant, go see your OB/GYN. And if you don’t have an OB/GYN, we have several we can refer you to.

Thanks again for the question, T. Let me know how else I can help.


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