OB ABCs

Month 9

month_09Take time for yourself and work on a healthy relationship with your spouse to smooth out some of the daily wrinkles and be more in tune with your new role as a mom.

While the joys of being a new parent are lasting, you’re still “you”—even with some of the pressures associated with parenting. Household chores, parenting styles, money and family can all be overwhelming and frustrating. Take time for yourself and work on a healthy relationship with your spouse to smooth out some of the daily wrinkles and be more in tune with your new role as a mom.

Before baby, you and your significant other spent time together as a couple. Now, with baby, you’re either together as a family, or you and baby spend copious amounts of time together bonding. Plan some alone time though—whether you swap childcare with other parents or have a relative watch the baby—so you can pursue your interests.

Choose activities you enjoy doing, whether it’s:

  • Exercising or walking
  • Reading, writing and drawing
  • Other hobbies, such as scrapbooking or photography
  • Talking with friends

Baby Makes Three

You see your spouse as a partner—and now he’s a dad as well. Take time for adjustments in your relationship after baby arrives, as you’re both facing new challenges at home.

You both have new responsibilities: you are still nursing while trying to maintain a household with your spouse. Designate chores such as washing the dishes or doing laundry for your spouse to do and agree not to keep score. Switch responsibilities weekly to change things up.

Be open about your roles as parents and your parenting styles. Your spouse might be more laid back about where the baby naps and plays. Talk with your pediatrician about the recommended guidelines for your baby’s feeding and sleeping schedules, and agree on the best practices for you, your spouse and baby.

TIPS

  • As a new parent, it’s never too early to consider higher education expenses. If you begin saving $10 each week after your baby is born and earn 4 percent interest, you will have saved $12,663.44 by the time your child turned 17.
  • As you reach this month of post-pregnancy, it’s likely you still feel exhausted due to raising your child. Remember to take time out for yourself. Even if a friend or relative can watch your child for only an hour, this can help you to do something you love, such as reading a book, going for a walk or watching a movie.